Negativity – How do you cope with it?

“How Do You Cope With Negativity?”

I have felt a bit negative over the last three weeks on posting upon my blog. This was not intentional but due to other commitments outside my control. In return I have felt utterly exhausted as a result and the psychological demands.

Along with the exhaustion comes the negativity not to want to do anything, but I have endeavoured to fight this mentality and I have not been totally useless.

In fact I have been the opposite and have been busy. I have continued to set up my foundations and have recently purchased the domains required to set up my foundational sites and taking steps to make them for use in the future months. Also I am still actively decluttering personal possessions and still organising my data on the hard drives for ease of use. Furthermore I am ensuring that it is all well backed up in “JustCloud”.

I have also been looking over existing PLR and purchasing further valuable PLR that I am intending to use in future products. I have yet to scrutinise this finely and extract what I intend to use. I have also been doing some reviews and testimonials for others products and reports. I have been active upon the Facebook groups again. So in fact taking a positive outlook in a negative situation but it has not always been the case.

I know I have been there many times, and even beyond that in past years. I am glad to say that these negative suicidal years are now well behind me and I have come through the other side. So how did I do it?

I have been reminded of these really bad suicidal years recently, by a situation not related to me but one that I cannot talk about due to confidentiality.

In my case I was at rock bottom way back then, I could see no future to each day as I awoke. I just wanted to wallow in my self-pity. Every task seemed immeasurable and beyond me. I thought that I would be made homeless by government bodies outside my control. I really did think that I had no control. How wrong I was! However I was blind to see that I did still have control of my life. I just had to regain it back and move forward with every small action that I undertook.

So how did I change this massive negativity to positivity?

“Make Each Day Count”

Well believe it or not it was a movie at the time that influenced me. Remember the movie “Titanic”? I nicked and adopted the comment that the character “Jack Dawson” makes whilst dining with the “finest people” upon the liner. It was “Make Each Day Count” and I actually used it as my screen saver, scrolling in front of me as I worked each day in all that I did upon my computer. I still use the phrase today.

By taking this approach I looked at the negative steps each day and how I could “Make Each Day Count”. How could I make each negative situation count in my life. I broke them down to their finest core and extracted the positives in all the negatives thrown at me.

Believe it or not when something happens in your life for a negative reason, it does happen for a positive reason. But sometimes at that time we cannot see why?

However when we look back years later we can often see how that negative has actually a positive benefit to your life or many positives. The old adage in the saying is “As one door closes others open” has never been a truer saying.

So how do we deal with a negative situation in your life today?

Well we break it down and see why it has happened in the first place.

  • What has actually caused this negative to happen?
  • What impact on your life does it mean to you?
  • Is your life going to change as a result?
  • Can you turn the negative around and if so how will that effect you?

What you must do is once you know the answers to these questions and many more is to accept it. Face it head on and say OK let’s get on with it. You must face what this negative means to me, and turn it around to see the positive it actually brings to your life.

It may mean that you have to change your plans, a career change, move house or location, change jobs, further study or simply take some time out. It may be a relationship issue. It could be absolutely anything in your life.

However I can guarantee that I have learned from past experience that in every negative in my life. There are at least three positives that I can grasp upon and move forward in a positive manner in my life. This is something I am now sharing with you all.

We live in a world that is focused upon negativity as this sells newspapers, the news on TV, TV soaps and more. Look at your daily life and compare how much negative stuff you read or see with good, positive actions. The negative outsells the positives.

So never dwell on the negatives, they are actually positives in reverse.

Go seek the positives and “Make each day count” in your life!!

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13 Comments

  • Hi Gary, thanks for the nice post. I try to stay positive by giving my life a purpose and focus. Setting goals and then breaking them down into doable steps every day.
    I use Mark Joyners’s Simpleology software for setting goals and managing tasks.
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  • Cathy Yerges

    Reply Reply April 30, 2013

    We all have negative and doubtful times in our lives. So glad you could pull through and I agree ” Take One Day at a Time”.
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  • zora

    Reply Reply April 20, 2013

    Hi Gary ,

    Thanks for the good read.To have light there must be dark.So i guess to have positive you have to have Negativity !I just wished to have less on the neg. and more on the pos.Side.

    It a fact of life we have to keep working to bring up the positive and hold down the Negativity the best we can.Thanks for bring this to light and have a good day!

    Regards
    Zora
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  • Jude Banks

    Reply Reply April 3, 2013

    Gary, a wonderful post, obviously written from the heart.

    When I get a negative thought – we all do sometimes – I move away from it through distraction.

    That is different from erasing or suppressing negative thoughts, which can harm us and actually make us even more negative.

    The technique is simple. Acknowledge your negative thinking, then switch your mind to something positive, even watching a comedy on TV is a good idea at times like that. So the key is to “replace” negative thinking, NOT to
    suppress or erase it. Anyway, it works for me.

    You are doing the right things, moving forward despite black moments. Each time you get past these negative feelings, you learn to trust yourself more because you know you can overcome them. That way, negatives will surface less often and with less power.

    Loved your post.

    Take care,
    ~Jude
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  • Bonnie Gean

    Reply Reply April 1, 2013

    Negativity is a monster I can do without! The second I know I’m heading toward a negative thought, I immediately think of something positive in its place.

    I hope you come to grips with the negativity in your life because it does nothing, but tear at the thread of your sanity, prevent you from getting enough sleep, and ruins the happy moments you could be having in their place.

    Dream big, think positive, and enjoy life Gary!
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  • Ginny Carter

    Reply Reply April 1, 2013

    What an inspiring piece – taking it one day at a time is such a sensible piece of advice, and one that I tend to ignore so thanks for the reminder 🙂

  • Jan Kearney

    Reply Reply April 1, 2013

    Keep going, Gary – everything has a reverse side, make your negatives a positive 🙂
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  • Guy Martin

    Reply Reply April 1, 2013

    Hi Gary,

    I got here from John Thornhill’s Facebook Marketing Group. I like your article and you seemed to have done much homework in this arena whether it’s from personal experiences or research. I find the mind to be bent one way or another depending on the last series of action or comment. As an example, if I react negatively about something…what will happen next will most likely be from the negative area of my thoughts. Also we can choose to accept someone’s negative comment…or not. I like to stay on the positive side, it’s simply better. I like your blog and your writing style, Gary. Keep up the good work.

  • Debra Moser

    Reply Reply March 31, 2013

    Hi Gary,
    I commend you on your progress. As a Personal Development Coach, I share affirmations with my clients to change the negative old pattern thoughts to positive ones. I am statements are very powerful. We choose whether the I am statements are success or failure. You become what you believe. Set the tone of your day every morning, I am strong, I am refreshed, I am worthy, I am valuable, I am qualified, I am able..You get the picture:) Your cloud is breaking Gary, for your light to shine. Your inner words can change your future not darken it. Thank you for sharing your journey.

  • Joy Healey

    Reply Reply March 31, 2013

    Hi Gary

    Glad to see you’re getting on top of things.

    I find action / keeping busy helps me to stop “thinking about things”.

    When it’s a situation you can’t change, I was told “Let go and let God”.

    Good luck, and keep up the good progress.

    Joy
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  • Liliana Marsden

    Reply Reply March 31, 2013

    Thank you Gary for a great post. I seem to suffer from similar feelings and what has helped me is to ask myself what lessons I can learn from this?

    I have not overcome negativity completely but I certainly will make every day count!

    You are so right about negativity, I remember reading that Mother Teresa would never go for an anti war rally but she said I would attend a pro peace. See the difference? Believe and think what you want not what you don’t want 🙂
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  • Donald

    Reply Reply March 31, 2013

    Hi Gary,

    Good post mate. Good to see your on top of things. I have never been there. My wife has depression, good one day different the rest. Sometimes it got to me. Having to come home from work and get the dinner on etc because of the way she is feeling. We get through each day.

    Keep at it mate. You’re getting there and of course, a great blog.

    Regards

    Donald

  • Ken Soszka

    Reply Reply March 31, 2013

    Hi Gary, a very inspirational post! Although I thankfully have never personally had to cope with the type of negative feelings that you have, I do know people who have. Even so, the basic philosophy of getting positives out of negatives is a great one that I use all of the time.

    Ken Soszka
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