Negativity – How do you cope with it?

“How Do You Cope With Negativity?”

I have felt a bit negative over the last three weeks on posting upon my blog. This was not intentional but due to other commitments outside my control. In return I have felt utterly exhausted as a result and the psychological demands.

Along with the exhaustion comes the negativity not to want to do anything, but I have endeavoured to fight this mentality and I have not been totally useless.

In fact I have been the opposite and have been busy. I have continued to set up my foundations and have recently purchased the domains required to set up my foundational sites and taking steps to make them for use in the future months. Also I am still actively decluttering personal possessions and still organising my data on the hard drives for ease of use. Furthermore I am ensuring that it is all well backed up in “JustCloud”.

I have also been looking over existing PLR and purchasing further valuable PLR that I am intending to use in future products. I have yet to scrutinise this finely and extract what I intend to use. I have also been doing some reviews and testimonials for others products and reports. I have been active upon the Facebook groups again. So in fact taking a positive outlook in a negative situation but it has not always been the case.

I know I have been there many times, and even beyond that in past years. I am glad to say that these negative suicidal years are now well behind me and I have come through the other side. So how did I do it?

I have been reminded of these really bad suicidal years recently, by a situation not related to me but one that I cannot talk about due to confidentiality.

In my case I was at rock bottom way back then, I could see no future to each day as I awoke. I just wanted to wallow in my self-pity. Every task seemed immeasurable and beyond me. I thought that I would be made homeless by government bodies outside my control. I really did think that I had no control. How wrong I was! However I was blind to see that I did still have control of my life. I just had to regain it back and move forward with every small action that I undertook.

So how did I change this massive negativity to positivity?

“Make Each Day Count”

Well believe it or not it was a movie at the time that influenced me. Remember the movie “Titanic”? I nicked and adopted the comment that the character “Jack Dawson” makes whilst dining with the “finest people” upon the liner. It was “Make Each Day Count” and I actually used it as my screen saver, scrolling in front of me as I worked each day in all that I did upon my computer. I still use the phrase today.

By taking this approach I looked at the negative steps each day and how I could “Make Each Day Count”. How could I make each negative situation count in my life. I broke them down to their finest core and extracted the positives in all the negatives thrown at me.

Believe it or not when something happens in your life for a negative reason, it does happen for a positive reason. But sometimes at that time we cannot see why?

However when we look back years later we can often see how that negative has actually a positive benefit to your life or many positives. The old adage in the saying is “As one door closes others open” has never been a truer saying.

So how do we deal with a negative situation in your life today?

Well we break it down and see why it has happened in the first place.

• What has actually caused this negative to happen?
• What impact on your life does it mean to you?
• Is your life going to change as a result?
• Can you turn the negative around and if so how will that effect you?

What you must do is once you know the answers to these questions and many more is to accept it. Face it head on and say OK let’s get on with it. You must face what this negative means to me, and turn it around to see the positive it actually brings to your life.

It may mean that you have to change your plans, a career change, move house or location, change jobs, further study or simply take some time out. It may be a relationship issue. It could be absolutely anything in your life.

However I can guarantee that I have learned from past experience that in every negative in my life. There are at least three positives that I can grasp upon and move forward in a positive manner in my life. This is something I am now sharing with you all.

We live in a world that is focused upon negativity as this sells newspapers, the news on TV, TV soaps and more. Look at your daily life and compare how much negative stuff you read or see with good, positive actions. The negative outsells the positives.

So never dwell on the negatives, they are actually positives in reverse.

Go seek the positives and “Make each day count” in your life!!